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- The Alt.polyamory FAQ
- Culture Supplement
-
- 1.) Poly Non-fiction
-
- 2.) Poly Fiction
-
- 3.) Poly Movies
-
- 4.) Poly Songs
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- 5.) Other Poly Creativeness
-
- 6.) Poly Organizations
-
-
- Key to symbols: * indicates level of poly in piece
- ! indicates poly friendliness of piece
-
- For further information on books on this list, you can telnet the
- Library of Congress at dra.com or locis.loc.gov
-
-
- 1.) Poly Non-fiction
-
- ***** !!!!! Deborah Anapol, "Love Without Limits" (see IRC listing under
- organizations)
- ** !! Simone De Beauvoir, "Adieux: a Farewell to Sartre"
- ***** !!!!! M. L. Carden, "Oneida: Utopian Community to Modern
- Corporation"
- ***** ! Audrey Chapman, "Mansharing: Dilemma or Choice"
- ***** !!!! G. Clanton & C. Downing, "Face to Face to Face"
- ***** !! L. & J. Constantine, "Group Marriage"
- *** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Heavenly Breakfast"
- *** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "The Motion of Light in Water"
- ** !!!! Helen Fisher, "Anatomy of Love"
- * ! Arno Karlen, "Threesomes: Studies in Sex, Power, and
- Intimacy"
- ***** !!!!! Aidan A. Kelly (ed), "The New Polygamy: The Polyamorous
- Lifestyle as a New Spiritual Path."
- *** !!! R. Libby & R. Whitehurst, "Marriage and Alternatives:
- Exploring Intimate Relationships"
- *** !!! Spencer Klaw, "Without Sin"
- *** !!! R. Mazur, "The New Intimacy: Open Marriages and Alternative
- Lifestyles"
- ** ! Peter McWilliams, "Ain't Nobody's Business If You Do: The
- Absurdity of Consentual Crimes in a Free Society"
- ***** !!!!! Ryam Nearing, "Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer"
- (see PEP listing under organizations)
- ** !!! Anais Nin, "The Diaries of Anais Nin"
- **** !!!!! Nena and George O'Neill, "Open Marriage"
- *** n/a "The Pillow Book" (erotic art from India, China, and Japan)
- *** !!! James Ramey, "Intimate Friendships"
- *** !!! Carl Rogers, "Becoming Partners: Marriage and Its
- Alternatives"
- ** !!!! Bertrand Russell, "Marriage and Morals"
- ***** !!! Gay Talese, "Thy Neighbor's Wife"
- *** !! Robert Thamm, "Beyond Marriage and the Nuclear Family"
-
-
- 1.) Poly Fiction
-
- * ! Isabel Allende, "Eva Luna"
- *** !! Thea Alexander, "2150 AD"
- ** !! Wilhelmina Baird, "Crashcourse"
- ** !!! Wilhelmina Baird, "Clipjoint"
- *** !!! John Dudley Ball, "Chief Tallon and the S.O.R."
- *** !!! M. A. R. Barker, "Flamesong"
- *** !!! M. A. R. Barker, "Man of Gold"
- **** !!!! Gael Baudino, "Gossamer Axe"
- **** !!!!! Amy Bloom, "Love is Not a Pie", short story
- *** !!!! Marion Zimmer Bradley, "The Forbidden Tower"
- ** !! Rita Mae Brown, "Six of One"
- ** !! Orson Scott Card, "Saints"
- ** !!! Ernest Callenbach, "Ecotopia"
- ** !!! Ernest Callenbach, "Ecotopia Emerging"
- ** !!!! Micheal Cunningham, "A Home at the End of the World"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "Fifth Business"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "Leaven of Malice"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "Lyre of Orpheus"
- ** !! Robertson Davies, "World of Wonders"
- ** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Babel-17"
- * !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Dhalgren"
- *** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "The Mad Man"
- ** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Stars in My Pocket Like Grains of Sand"
- ** !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Triton"
- ** !!! Wayne Dyer, "Gifts From Eykis"
- *** !!! Goethe, "Wahlverwandschaften"
- *** !!! Robert Graves, "Goodbye to All That"
- *** !!! Robert Graves, "Watch the North Wind Rise"
- * !! Andrew Harvey, "Burning Houses"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Beyond This Horizon"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Cat Who Walked Through Walls"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Friday"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Glory Road"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Gulf"
- **** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "I Will Fear No Evil"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Methuselah's Children"
- ** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Moon is a Harsh Mistress"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Number of the Beast"
- *** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "To Sail Beyond the Sunset"
- **** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Stranger in a Strange Land"
- **** !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Time Enough For Love"
- * !!! John Irving, "The World According to Garp"
- *** !! Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Knight of Ghosts and Shadows"
- * !! Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Summoned to Tourney"
- ** !!!! Doris Lessing, "The Marriages Between Zones Three, Four,
- and Five"
- *** !! Elizabeth Lynn, "The Dancers of Arun"
- *** !! Elizabeth Lynn, "A Different Light"
- *** !! Elizabeth Lynn, "The Sardonyx Net"
- **** !!!! Donald Kingsbury, "Courtship Rite" ("Geta" in the UK)
- **** ! Milan Kundera, "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"
- *** !!! Michael P. Kube-McDowell, "The Quiet Pools"
- **** !!!! Larry McMurty, "Leaving Cheyenne"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Starfarers"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Transition"
- ** !!! Vonda McIntyre, "Metaphase"
- * !!!!! Shirley Meier, "Shadow's Daughter"
- * ! Vladimir Nabokov, "Ada"
- **** ! Maxine Paetro, "Manshare"
- * !!! David Palmer, "Emergence"
- **** !!!! Marge Piercy, "The High Cost of Living"
- *** !! Marge Piercy, "Woman on the Edge of Time"
- *** !!! Marge Piercy, "Summer People"
- **** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Come Live My Life"
- **** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Harrad Experiment"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Immoral Reverend"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Love Exchange"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Premar Experiments"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Proposition 31"
- *** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Rebellion of Yale Marrat"
- **** !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Thursday My Love"
- ** !! Elizabeth Scarbourough, "The Harem of Aman Akbar"
- ** !!! Melissa Scott, "The Empress of Earth"
- ** !!! Melissa Scott, "The Five-Twelfths of Heaven"
- ** !!! Melissa Scott, "Silence in Solitude"
- *** !!!!! Starhawk, "The Fifth Sacred Thing"
- * !!!!! S. M. Stirling, "Snow Brother"
- **** !!!!! S. M. Stirling & Shirley Meier, "The Cage"
- * !!!!! S. M. Stirling & Shirley Meier, "Saber and Shadow"
- *** !!!!! S. M. Stirling, Shirley Meier, & Karen Wehrstein, "Shadow's
- Son"
- ** !!! John Varley, Gaia trilogy; "Demon", "Titan", "Wizard"
- ** !!! John Varley, "The Persistance of Vision"
- ** !!! Joan D. Vinge, "The Outcasts of Heaven's Gate"
- ** !!! Alice Walker, "The Temple of My Familiar"
- **** !!!!! Karen Wehrstein, "Lion's Heart"
- **** !!!!! Karen Wehrstein, "Lion's Soul"
- *** !!! James Wharram, "Two Girls, Two Catamarans"
- ** !!! Kate Wilhelm, "Where Late the Sweet Birds Sing"
-
-
- 3.) Poly Movies
-
- "Another Woman's Lipstick"
- (Denise Crosby)
- Three episodes based on "Red Shoe Diaries", first episode concerns
- a woman who has two different lovers, who satisfy different needs.
- More dishonest monogamy than polyamory.
-
- "Belle Epogue"
- (Ariadna Gil)
- Spanish film set during the Spanish Civil War.An artist takes in
- a deserter, who repays him by sleeping with all four of his
- daughters. It's pretty light hearted and a warm farcical romp.
-
- "Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice"
- (Robert Culp, Angie Dickenson)
- This is very much a wife-swapping tale, rather than being more
- generally oriented. Widely known and raises many poly questions.
-
- "A Change of Seasons"
- (Shirley Maclaine, Bo Derek)
- Maclaine's professor husband has an affair with Derek; she then has
- an affair of her own, and then the four decide to go on a holiday
- together to see whether they can work something out...
-
- "Enemies: A Love Story"
- (Angelica Houston, Ron Silver)
- A tale of a man and the three women in his life.
-
- "The Harrad Experiment"
- (James Whitmore, Tippi Hedron, Don Johnson)
- Adaptation of the Robert Rimmer book. Unfortunately it spends so much
- time on the topic of public nudity that it has little left over to
- deal with poly issues.
-
- "Harrad Summer"
-
- "Heartbeat"
- (Nick Nolte)
- This is the story of "beat" reporter Jack Kerouac's affair with a
- married couple.
-
- "Henry and June"
- (Uma Thurman, Fred Ward)
- Writer Henry Miller has an affair with his friend Anais Nin... and
- then his wife June shows up. Anais finds herself becoming attracted
- to June....
-
- "The Hunger"
- (Catherine Deneuve, David Bowie, Susan Sarandon)
- More bi than poly, and only a few moments of that. At the end
- Sarandon's character seems to have new lovers of both genders.
-
- "A Lesson in Love"
- (1954) (Ingmar Bergman)
- A romantic comedy about a doctor trying to win back his wife after
- she leaves him over an affair of his.
-
- "Lianna"
- (John Sayles)
- A professor's wife finds out he's haveing an affair, and at the same
- time falls in love with a female professor. More a lesbian tale than
- a poly one, but especially good at showing the effects on family and
- friends of "coming out" different.
-
- "Loving Couples"
-
- "Loving Molly"
- (Beau Bridges, Sally Fields)
- The story of three men and the one woman that they share from the time
- they are children and throughout their lives.
-
- "Lucky Lady"
- (Liza Minelli, Gene Hackman, Burt Reynolds)
- It does look like the three main characters are getting set to stay
- together at the end of the movie.
-
- "Mahabharata"
- Contains the marriage of five brothers, the Pandava, to a single wife,
- Draupadi, based (I believe) on aspects of mythology from India.
-
- "Mickey and Maude"
-
- "No Way Out"
- (Kevin Costner, Sean Young, Gene Hackman)
- Costner gets involved with Young, who is already involved with his
- boss (Hackman). Bad things happen. She actively says that she is
- poly (before she is killed).
-
- "Paint Your Wagon"
- (Lee Marvin, Jane Fonda, Clint Eastwood)
- Due to the scarity of women, Marvin and Eastwood share one.
-
- "Red Shoe Diaries"
- Man finds out about girlfriends poly lifestyle after she kills
- herself. Then he meets her other lover.
-
- "Rita and Sue ... and Bob too"
- A married man's affair with two younger women causes his wife to
- leave him. Can the three lovers transmute their sexual interest into
- something more lasting?
-
- "Same Time Next Year
- (Alan Alda)
- Alda has a once a year meeting with his lover (as opposed to his wife),
- most of the time is spent examining the changes in the two people in
- the intervening times.
-
- "The Seduction of Joe Tynan"
- (Alan Alda)
- Alda plays a politician who falls in love with another woman at a
- convention.
-
- "She's Gotta Have It"
- One of Spike Lee's earliest films, deals with a polyamorous young
- woman and the three men who want her to choose. There are also
- alot of Afro-American male/female issues addressed in this movie.
-
- "Small Circle of Friends"
- Genuine poly values are central to the plot of this film about
- a MFM triad. Low-budget production, but asks good questions.
-
- "The Substitute Wife"
- (Lea Thomson, Farrah Fawcett)
- Thomsons character is dying, and she finds Fawcett to be a new
- wife for her husband. The family falls in love with the new woman
- and then Thomson miraculously recovers. They decide to keep the
- family together with both women.
-
- "Summer Lovers"
- (Darryl Hannah)
- A young American couple on a summer vacation in the Mediterranean
- get involved with a French archaeologist.
-
- "3 of Hearts" (this has a different ending in the European release)
- (Kelly Lynch, Sherilyn Fenn, William Baldwin)
- Lesbian Lynch loses partner Fenn, who is bi, she pays Baldwin to
- seduce Fenn and dump her, hoping that she will come back. In the
- European release the movie ends with Baldwin getting the girl, in the
- American release he doesn't.
-
- "Threesome"
- (Laura Flynn Boyle, Steven Baldwin, Josh Charles)
- The story of 2 men and 1 woman who find themselves assigned to the
- same dorm room, and the relationship that develops. Their multi-partner
- relationship is portrayed in a very poly-friendly way.
-
- "Willie and Phil"
- (Michael Ontkean, Karen Allen)
- Seventies movie about a polyamorous triad involved in the protest
- movement.
-
- "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"
- (Daniel Day-Lewis, Lena Olin)
- The womanizing Tomas falls in love with the monogamous Tereza, but
- cannot give up his lover Sabina....Meanvhile, Russian tanks roll over
- Prague...
-
-
- 4.) Poly Songs
-
- Joan Armatrading, "The Weakness in Me"
- David Crosby, Jefferson Airplane, "Triad"
- Devo, "Happy Guy"
- Enya, "Marble Halls"
- Howard Jones, "Noone is to Blame"
- King Crimson, "Man With an Open Heart"
- Kathy Mar (her new tape)
- Deidre McCalla, "Don't Doubt It"
- Mondo Vita, "Four Way Stop"
- The Monks, "Love in Stereo"
- Michael Nesmith, "Different Drum"
- Prince, Cyndi Lauper, "When U Were Mine"
- Chris Rea, "Nothing to Fear"
- Resless Heart, "Why Does It Have to Be"
- The Roches, "The Two That I Want"
-
-
-
- 5.) Other Poly Creativeness
-
- Love and Rockets comic books have a poly/bi accepting story line
- written by Jaime Hernandez
- Omaha the Cat Dancer and ElfQuest comic books also have main
- characters that are frequently or occasionally involved in polyamourous
- relationships.
-
-
- 6.) Poly Organizations
-
- a.) Mailing lists
-
- Triples - to subscribe send a message to triples-request@hal.com. This is
- a moderated list for discussion of poly issues.
-
- Poly-Boston - to subscribe send a message to majordomo@world.std.com with
- the line "subscribe poly-boston" in the body of the message. This is
- a list for poly and poly-friendly folk in the Boston, MA USA area.
-
-
- b.) Organizations
-
-
- Abundant Love Institute Abundant Love Institute
- Membership Information Conference Information
- P.O Box 4322 P.O. Box 6306
- San Rafael, CA 94913-4322 Ocean View, HI 96737
- (415) 507-1739 (808) 929-9691
-
- Church of All Worlds Delaware Valley Synergy
- P.O. Box 1542 Box 252
- Ukiah, CA 95482 Huntington Valley, PA 19006-0252
-
- Live the Dream Touchpoint
- 6454 Van Nuys Blvd #150 Network for the Nonmonogamous
- Van Nuys, CA 91401 P.O. Box 408
- 818/361-6737 Chloride, AZ 86431
-
- Loving Alternatives Oregon Local
- P.O. Box 10509 P.O. Box 5247
- State College, PA 16805-0509 Eugene, OR 97405
- 503/683-6197
-
- Family Tree Potomac Area Lifestyles (Pals)
- c/o Earle Robinson 509 East 42nd Street
- R.R. 2, Box 759 Baltimore, MD 21218-1202
- Center Barnstead, NH 03225
-
- Tri-State Polyamory Beyond Monogamy Inc.
- P.O. Box 625 P.O. Box 907
- New Providence, NJ 07974-0625 Morley, WA 6062? AUSTRALIA
- net: hardy@panix.com
-
- Alternatives to Monogamy South Bay Intinet
- P.O. Box 4172 P.O. Box 70203
- Wheaton, IL 60189-4172 Sunnyvale, CA 94086
- (708) 510-7027 (408) 730-9622
-
- Pali Paths Glendower
- P.O. Box 22586 P.O. Box 520291
- Honolulu, HI 96823 Independance, MO 64052
- (808) 239-6824 email: DWEST@delphi.com
- email: hwhite@uhunix.uhcc.Hawaii.Edu
-
- Family Synergy Loving Alternatives
- P.O. Box 2668 P.O. Box 1322
- Culver City, CA 90231 Greenwood, IN 46142
- email: poly@holli.com
-
- All of the above organizations are for people interested in poly relations
- rather than aimed towards swinging. The following are for swingers and may
- be more friendly towards "cruising".
-
- North America Swing Club Assoc. SSC Magazine
- P.O. Box 7128 P.O. Box 459
- Buena Park, CA 90622 San Dimas, CA 91773
-
-
- Most of these groups will send you information if you submit a self-
- addressed stamped envelope.
-
- The former IRC and PEP have merged to become the Abundant Love Institute
- and are jointly publishing a magazine called _Loving More_. The
- magazine does include personal ads, members recieve one free,
- additional ads are $10 per. They also maintain a lending library of many of
- the above titles, both fiction and non-fiction available to members, as
- well as a list of local support groups.
-
- Poly ads may be placed on the net in alt.personals and alt.personals.poly,
- they are inappropriate for alt.polyamory.
-
- Thanks go especially to Howard Landman and the triples mailing list, and
- to Dr. Deborah Anapol and the people at ALI for allowing judicious use
- of their reviews and resources.
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